One of my many pet peeves that I feed way too much is the way languages corrupted and misused. I found another one that another phrase that I feel like has been thoroughly corrupted and will never return to what it was which is very sad because it's such a harsh meaning now.
It used to be that when someone made the extra effort to help someone else, in a store setting or even in a person-to-person setting, they could be said to have the bent over backwards. To "bend over backwards" to help somebody was a good thing and a positive thing and you did everything that you could to the point of going way beyond just leaning down to do something you bent over backwards.
Sometime in the late 70s to early 80s when the term "suck" started to catch on when I was in middle school and high school I heard it for the first time that so-and-so had to bend over and take it. And it's grown in use to the point now that it's common vernacular that when somebody says "just bend over and take it" everybody in the room seems to understand what that means. But I don't think they realize how gross of phrase it is.
My understanding of the phrase "bend over and take it" is based on gay sex. A man is forced to drop his pants grab his ankles and then somebody another man typically stands behind him and shoves his penis into his butt hole to have animal sex with him. That's what I hear when I hear somebody say bend over and take it!
Penile sex on the level of rape and abuse has become a common phrase today. That fits with everything else that I'm seeing happening around me.
