I find it interesting how people seem to think that tension is bad. That we should not have any tension. That we should be able to attain a tension-free life.
Evolutionists believe that tension is what drives change in a species. Christians believe that there is a tension in life because of being in the world but not of the world.
It seems like citizens of cities feel like they should be able to walk down the street with no tension.
How laughable! How disappointing. When people are involved there will always be tension.
Lawyers live to bring tension. Their billboards cry out for people to call and sic them on whoever supposedly did them wrong. This is a tension that thumps on our nerves every time we see those billboards.
I remember reading a book set in the old West. There was a scene where the hero rode into town and got off his horse. He purposely dismounted on the side of the horse away from the people standing close by. The reason the writer used was the horse gave protection from one of the people shooting him.
There will always be tension. How you deal with it is your decision. I suggest learning to accept it and setting things up to minimize the threats in your life.
Good luck!