Friday, September 24, 2021

High school reunions ~

I graduated high school in 1982. In 2012 I enjoyed being a part of the group that brought a 30 year high school reunion into the world. We got a big ballroom at the Hilton hotel in town and put on a good show.

But there were side parties and other things with the clicks (cliques?) from high school that I was not invited to nor included in even though I was part of the organizing team of the reunion. I was the treasurer, and all payments for the big party came through me.

So as we drew close to the 40 year anniversary of our graduation from high school I was asked by the leading members of our class about participating in this anniversary.

In high school I was a nerd. I carried all my books with me. I was shy, stayed on the edge, was a wallflower. At the 30-year reunion I made a big deal about how someone can come from being a wallflower to being a leader of the effort to bring us together. It was awesome!

But because none of those people really reached out to me over the past nine or so years and there really hasn't been a relationship with them (except as social media friends) I feel no affiliation there. I have no need to reunite with the people that made fun of me and denigrated me and created such angst in me that I struggled as an adult.

So when I was asked if I would help with the 40 year reunion I said no. I feel some guilt over that, but for the most part I am fine with my decision. I told them that I would be happy to attend but I would not be taking a leadership position in the reading.

It will be interesting to see what they come up with and if I even participate.